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Coffee Beer Fest Jan 25, 2015 Enjoy some of the best coffee beers from names like Stone Brewing, Alesmith, Noble, Ballast Point, Modern Times and more. 72 other events on Sunday, January 25
 
Concerts
Bands coming to town and just-announced shows
Arts & Culture feature
Work that made a mark locally in the last year
Spin Cycle
A crucial vote on the party’s future happens this month
Check 1, Check 2 | Music & nightlife
Observatory to take over historic location
The World Fare
Dumplings, borscht and Stroganoff highlight the La Mesa eatery’s menu

 

 
 
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Wednesday, January 21,2015
Backwards & in High Heels

Parenting the tween-ish kid

Where old and new territory collide

By Aaryn Belfer
This summer, my daughter will turn 10 and will officially be a double-digit midget, as my mother used to call me once I'd aged into the tween years. Offensive, I know, but it was 1980. And it was my
Monday, January 5,2015
Backwards & in High Heels

Sandwiched: the glory of being a grown-up

Life in the middle between a dependent child and an aging parent

By Aaryn Belfer
The Sunday before Christmas, while on my way to a holiday gathering with my husband and another couple, I received an email from my mother with an explosive subject line. "Emergency Room," it read.
Monday, December 22,2014
Backwards & in High Heels

Shirley Owen and the urge to murder San Diegans

Visions of gun violence danced in her head

By Aaryn Belfer
San Diego City Councilmember Lorie Zapf has a problem called “Shirley Owen,” which means—paging San Diego—we have a problem called “Lorie Zapf.”
Monday, December 8,2014
Backwards & in High Heels

Ebony and ivory and harmony, oh my!

Stop pretending an interracial hug fixes injustice

By Aaryn Belfer
In the days between two grotesque and revealing grand-jury decisions not to indict the killers of two unarmed black men, a photo of a white policeman embracing a weeping black boy kept popping up in my Facebook feed.
Monday, November 24,2014
Backwards & in High Heels

Self-medicating through trashy art

Taylor Swift and ‘The Good Wife’: just two of my guilty pleasures

By Aaryn Belfer
Here’s the stone-cold truth: I’m into some superficial entertainment right now. Various news items engulf me like an avalanche: President Obama finding his immigration balls a month too late; frat boys across the country getting away with rape, ho hum.
Monday, November 10,2014
Backwards & in High Heels

Going nuclear

An experiment in not exercising a hard-won fundamental right

By Aaryn Belfer
On this most recent Election Day, the one that saw the U.S. Senate floor—and those of some governor's mansions and local Podunk cubicles across the country—get scrubbed clean with the asses of Democrats, I did something that pissed off pretty much everyone I know, and a whole bunch of someones I don't: I stayed home.
Monday, October 27,2014
Backwards & in High Heels

Encinitas’ Prop. F and the dispensaries

Let’s move this time machine to 2014, shall we?

By Aaryn Belfer
I don’t live anywhere near Encinitas. But a lovely, graceful, terrific writer friend of mine does, and, last week, she—a cancer survivor and user of medicinal marijuana herself—drafted a lovely, graceful, terrific letter to some local publications about Prop. F. More specifically, it was about her opposition to it.
Monday, October 13,2014
Backwards & in High Heels

How not to run a marathon

Zero-2-couch in 10 easy weeks

By Aaryn Belfer
Too many people have been turned off to not running a marathon simply by trying to start off too fast. Their bodies rebel and they wind up in a mental funk, wondering why anyone would possibly want to not run in the first place.
Monday, September 29,2014
Backwards & in High Heels

Winter is coming

The Southern California preppers edition

By Aaryn Belfer
Wow, was that a summer or what? I don't know about you, but in my 22 years of living in this casual little city that's trying on fancy britches, I cannot recall a hotter five months. 
Monday, September 15,2014
Backwards & in High Heels

The iWatch is more iExtraordinary than you’ve imagined

From real-time-death notification to hot-flash tabulation, it does it all

By Aaryn Belfer
As the winner of an online sweepstakes (I stumbled onto it when I mistyped a url while shopping), I got to test drive the new iWatch for a week and am therefore in a unique position to weigh in on the attributes of this game-changing device.
 
 
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